Ten Biggest brain damaging habits.
My favorite episode from one of my favorite shows inspired me to make this- “the Gothowitz Deviation” (season 3, episode 43 of the entire series) from the Big Bang Theory. It’s the episode where Sheldon tries to “train” Penny using positive reinforcement to be someone he can tolerate more.
1. The Constant Victim - This kind of individual will always finds a way to end up as a victim in their relationships.
2. One-Upmanship Expert – This person uses put downs, snide remarks and criticisms, to show that they’re superior, and know much more than you.
3. Powerful Dependents – They hide behind the mask of being weak and powerless – then use their helplessness to dominate relationships. That is, they send the subtle message “you must not let me down.”
4. Triangulators – This person tries to get other people on their side. They’re quick to put you down, and to say some nasty things. They separate good friends or drive a wedge in families.
5. The Blasters – They blast you with their anger or they blow up suddenly. That stops you asking questions - in case there’s a showdown.
6. The Projector – This person thinks they’re perfect and others have the flaws. They take no ownership – because they’re never, ever wrong.
7. The Deliberate Mis-Interpreter – They seem like a nice person – but they twist and use your words. They spread misinformation and misinterpret you. Thus, they deliberately present you in a false, negative way.
8. The Flirt – This person uses flirting to get their way in life. They want to be admired and to have an audience. However, your feelings and your needs are of no concern to them.
9. The Iron Fist – They use intimidation and throw their weight around, to use you for their ends, and to get their way in life.
10. The Multiple Offender – This person uses several of the techniques we’ve described – and they’ll often switch between them if it suits their purposes.
Not exactly entirely psychology-related, but I thought this was interesting to put this here since it does deal with the mind.
Truer words have never been spoken. Though, I’m not sure I would classify this as “judging.” Help and give people strength and support. Listen to them; be there for them; empower them. Everything takes baby steps.
EMPATHY: Understanding what a person is feeling because you have experienced it yourself or can put yourself in their shoes; sort of like “feeling with the person.”
SYMPATHY: Acknowledging a person’s emotional hardships and providing comfort, assurance, and/or support.
Just a little humor. :)
Probably my most favorite find lately- research has been conducted to show that dopamine isn’t about pleasure so much anymore, but instead, it is related to MOTIVATION.
This begs a question… So does this mean that people with schizophrenia are more motivated in general due to their higher dopamine levels?
What is beautiful is actually not always good.
Oh, Gotye and the rest of us who can empathize: it’s better to just cut ties with an ex than to prolong the hurting by keeping in contact.